The marital relationship is in tatters. One spouse has decided that it is time to move on and pursue what he or she perceives as a better life ahead, while leaving the 20-year marriage in the rear-view mirror.
In this example, the other spouse wants to maintain the marital relationship for a host of reasons, including continuing unrequited love for the departing spouse, but most importantly to protect the children from the adverse effects that by the divorce will have on them. The other spouse sees the world only in the view of his or her happiness, which view no longer includes marriage and supporting, emotionally or economically, his or her children. Those obligations are in the mind of the departing spouse, an impediment of realizing his or her new vision of Shangri-La.
So, one fine day the unhappy spouse leaves the household, explaining to the other that he or she needs to find themselves. In the parting words are included, the following:
- Everything I earned is mine;
- If you come after me for alimony, I’ll take the children;
- I will buy the kids sneakers and stuff, but you will have them living with you and need to take care of the rest of their financial needs because I need my money for other things;
- If you interfere in anyway with my journey to true happiness, I will leave you penniless, and I will take the kids and move to another state;
- If you go to an attorney, I will rake you over the coals because I have the money and you will not be able to fight my economic superiority.